“Identity cannot be found or fabricated, but emerges from within when one has the courage to let go” Doug Cooper
Today’s vlog is on the topic of identity. Who are you and how do you define yourself? Do you define yourself by the job you have, the role/roles you play? Or do you define yourself by who you are in your core, the values you hold dear, and what your bigger purpose is? Can you honestly say that you created your identity?
I often come across clients who are living life according to the values they’ve learnt to abide by. These values are shaped by the upbringing they had and how their physical and emotional needs were met by their care givers. How they were influenced by teachers, peer groups, work environments, religious leaders, and even the sports they played and sport’s teams they supported.
In the last couple of weeks, I’ve spoken to so many people who feel lost, overwhelmed and angry. Because they feel out of control, they’ve lost their jobs or have been furloughed and simply don’t know what to do. Their identity was so intertwined with the job title they had, that without the job, they have lost their identity!
If this resonates with you, have you considered using this time to your best advantage and getting to know the real you?
When was the last time you thought about your values, and whether or not they’re congruent with your identity and your lifestyle?
As a first step, consider what your answer will be next time someone asks you “what do you do’? Remember… You are waaay more than your job title.
I’d love to hear from you and how you’re making the most of a bad situation? I’m happy to have a conversation if you’d like to make sense of your story.
Love and strong coffee